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THE PULL OUT METHOD

BY AMARA HOWE

PLEASE NOTE: WE ARE NOT SUGGESTING YOU TRY THIS AT HOME

Ah- the pull out method. The sweet, sweet pull out method.

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The utterly irresponsible yet totally genius act of a male withdrawing his penis from your vagina before ejaculating in order to refrain from any impregnation which could potentially occur if said semen was to take a swim.

According to a recent survey conducted by STANCE, over 50% of 146 female participants have relied on the pull out method at least once in their life. Considering the NHS website don’t consider the pull out method as a form of contraception – we figure that’s quite a lot, right?

 

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With the inconvenient ‘I-can’t-feel-a-fucking-thing’ struggle thanks to condoms and the significant increase of research suggesting the pill is linked to more side effects than we first thought, it appears many of us women are relying on ancient-methods of contraception. I mean, at least it’s better than shoving a lemon up there (I’m deadly serious).

But just how reliable is the pull-out method? It certainly doesn’t stop STI’s that’s for sure, but does it stop fertilisation? Well… kinda.

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According to plannedparenthood.org the likelihood of a woman getting pregnant by relying on the pull out method is 27 in 100, or 1 in 4 – as opposed to less than 1 in 100 when the pill is used. What it fails to mention is whether that’s due to weak pull-out game or the longly debated “pre-cum” scenario.

Pre-cum – the dribble before the disaster. Sorry, graphic, I know. The little bit of sperm that may happen to seep out of his penis before ejaculation. There’s a shitload of confusion between experts about whether pre-cum actually has sperm inside it. With weak research including the most recent 2013 report finding a third of 27 men’s pre-cum contained live sperm, it’s your call whether to chance it or not.

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Remember, withdrawal requires the male to have good self-control. Using the method with a one-night-stand – aka someone you barely know – isn’t a great idea because 1. sti’s, and 2. how good’s his pull out game?  Many long-term couples, however, rely on the method as a form of contraception.

Polly Ward*, 22, a student from Sussex said she’s been using the pull out method for well over a year with her partner. “I felt as though being on the pill from the age of 16 to 21 was unhealthy and I was worried that it was not only damaging my mental health but my physical health,” she said.

Ward, whose boyfriend pulls out every time they have sex, says it’s been “100% effective every time”. She said: “I actually got pregnant before while being on the pill, which is ironic. For me, I just feel happier knowing there isn’t any chemicals or whatever goes into the pill in my body to make it react or tricking it into acting differently.”

Getting the male perspective, STANCE spoke to Paul Davies*, 24, a products sales manager from Harlow about his experience. His girlfriend is also uncomfortable with taking the pill. “The pull out method works just fine – if the guy is confident enough. Most examples of a pull out going wrong is done from guys who lose control or get over eager. If you’re in control of what’s going on it’s easy enough to pull out in time. When you’re actually having sex it can sometimes linger in the back of your mind to not cum early which can sometimes take away from the experience but sex with a condom isn’t really sex at all… from my experience anyway.”

 

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Sarah Sessions, 47, an occupational health nurse from Ipswich said: “It’s good as no rubber is involved meaning greater intimacy and requires no prescription and is available all the time. However, it can be messy and does not protect against STD’s.”

Turing the pro’s on its head, however, Lisa Stobbs*, 24, a youth worker from Colchester is currently pregnant via what is believed to have been pre-cum. “We would tend to stop early and then continue with foreplay just to make sure we were being extra careful… sounds silly now I think about it.”

Stobbs, who admits she was naïve to have used the method is “over the moon” to be pregnant with her second baby, however, suggests going to see someone when considering contraceptive methods. She said: “If you’re not entirely worried about getting pregnant then crack on, but if you’re not ready then you should really consider all your options before taking the risk.

While many of us (including me) can admit to using the method it is safe to say it doesn’t always work. If you’ve considered all your options are in full acknowledgement there is a small chance of getting pregnant then the choice is yours. But remember, condoms are the ONLY way of protecting yourself from STI’s.

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STRAIGHT OUTTA HER MOUTH

BY AMARA HOWE

‘GIRLSMOUTH’ – THE EMPOWERING NEW FACEBOOK GROUP FOR EVERYTHING ‘GIRL’

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Who doesn’t love a good rant? I know I do. Whether it’s complaining about the severe lack of good-looking men on Tinder despite your obvious catfish, or the fact your fringe will never – and I repeat, never – look like Zooey Deschanel’s, us women love to moan.

And who wouldn’t moan when there’s a space for it on Facebook open for anyone – granted they identify with being female? Over 30,000 of you lovely ladies apparently.

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GIRLSMOUTH is an ‘invite-only’ Facebook page open to women aged 16+ from around the UK to talk about whatever ‘feels’ they might have. From ‘ranting about your bitch mother in law’ to ‘sharing your undie pics because you feel like a sex goddess’, GIRLSMOUTH is a fully disclosed page made to express whatever emotions you might be feeling on that day.

Creator of the Facebook page, Chloe Todd from Colchester, Essex spoke to me about why she originally set up GIRLSMOUTH. “I wanted to make it to show girls it’s okay to explore outside of your comfort zone. It’s okay to say “hey, let’s be friends”, with someone you hardly know. It’s okay to admit when you’re not okay.”  

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Far from any judgements, GIRLSMOUTH gives women a platform to express their emotions, ask for advice or heck – just post a bangin’ photo of them in their new underwear. “GIRLSMOUTH represents girl power completely” Todd said. And this sense of positivity and drive is what has made GIRLSMOUTH so successful – making women feel comfortable in their own skin.   

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With the increase of ‘girl clubs’ sweeping the internet, the overwhelming sense of girl power is commendable. No longer are we experiencing the high-school bitchiness we all once faced – the rise of support for one another is wonderful. Natasha Conway, 28 from Colchester who’s a member of the group said, “It’s nice to see women empower other women instead of tearing each other down.”

From engagements to pregnancy announcements, the page has a new surprise every day. Todd told me “I have met some incredible people and witnessed some truly heart-warming moments on the group.” Allowing other women to comment on such posts ultimately boosts our self-esteem and allows us to sense such girl-power.  

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But it’s not without its poignant subject matter. Women can also post anonymously, either for advice or simply to get something off their chest – from abusive relationships to family problems, no topics are taboo. Todd describes GIRLSMOUTH as a “support system for woman of all ages” – enabling those who have no one to talk to a chance to converse with others online is the reason why social media is such a powerful tool, without which, many are lost.

Not just a place to rant but a place to meet other likeminded people and receive honest advice on something you may be struggling with. “Empowering, hilarious and honest” are the three words Todd would use to describe GIRLSMOUTH.

So whether you want to get something off your chest, ask a fellow stylist for fashion advice, find a gym partner in your local area or hey – admire beautiful women, get your invite at GIRLSMOUTH – the ultimate girl power club.

Check out STANCE’s favourite girl power tees here:

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BABE YOU GOT THIS TEE – H&M

EVERYONE SHOULD BE A FEMINIST – MISSGUIDED

BABES UNITE – TOPSHOP

GIRL GANG – ASOS

Follow GIRLSMOUTH on insta @ https://www.instagram.com/girlsmouth/

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Girlboss. That says it all really.

Bringing to you the ultimate girl-power series, Netflix has just released the trailer for the up-and-coming must-see-series Girlboss. We’ve figured we might as well start calling it ‘Netflix and chic’ because we don’t think we’ve ever seen a trailer so ridiculously cool.

Inspired by New York Times best-selling book (also called “Girlboss”), Netflix has turned founder of clothing brand Nasty Gal, Sophia Amoruso’s entrepreneurial tale into 13 episodes documenting her rags-to-riches journey from eBay teen to fashion queen.  

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Building a $250 million dollar business, Nasty Gal began with Amoruso, aged 22, trawling around vintage shops in California, haggling items and selling them on her Ebay store ‘Nasty Gal Vintage.’ Growing from $200k to $23million in the space of three years, Amoruso was named as one of the richest self-made women in the world by Forbes in 2016.

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The two-minute trailer which was released April 3rd features American born actress Britt Robertson in her first ever lead-role portraying Sophia as a kooky-teen with the type of fringe dreams are made of.

In the trailer, Amoruso manages to haggle a metallic Western-print jacket down from $12 offering $9 along with some “free business advice.”

“This is an original 1970’s East-West katzkin motorcycle jacket in perfect condition. Know what your shit’s worth, because you just got played.”

girlbosssub.pngNow I don’t know about you, but that might possibly be the coolest quote I’ve ever heard in my life. Sassy and bad-assy, we just know this fashion flick is going to be the new Netflix-fave.

Mia Sheperd, 21, a student from Manchester said: “I’ve just finished reading her book… I’m really excited to see her story put into film. It’ll be good to see a strong female character like Sophia being shown – she’s sassy, funny and inspirational.”

Created and produced by Kay Cannon, the writer of Pitch Perfect, the series will premiere at the end of April. Featuring the queen herself, RuPaul, this literally couldn’t get any better.

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Sophie Sprittles, 22, from Colchester, a third year fashion and textiles student who quit her part-time retail job to sell clothes on her incredibly successful Depop page thegirlboss told me how much she looks up to Amoruso. “I found it amazing how she built the Nasty Gal empire from selling on Ebay in her bedroom.” With over 13k depop followers, Sprittles is on her way to becoming Essex’s girl boss herself. “I see Sophia as a huge inspiration to women with a small business idea. I am so excited for the Netflix series!”

The Independent recently wrote a review on the trailer, picking up on the fact that the “business woman” character is often portrayed as someone who’s pretty much a narcissistic bitch. They said “it’s great to see a show that attempts to place the same lens on the world of a business woman.” YAS!

If you haven’t seen the trailer for the soon to be Netflix-obsession already then, we advise you to watch it below RIGHT NOW

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LEAVE YOUR MARK BY ALIZA LICHT

SEEKING LOVE. FINDING OVERALLS BY LEANDRA MEDINE

GIRLBOSS BY SOPHIE AMORUSO

 

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